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this is such excellent writing, thank you! i think this is such an important conversation, especially as someone who was told i should want sex as a form of liberation before being told i could and should examine and establish my personal comfort levels and boundaries. i think we often ignore how the language of liberation has been twisted against philosophical feminist interests (also love the distinction between pop and philosophical feminism!) and you do a beautiful job of capturing much of that.

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“The key to effective, honest organising fundamentally lies in empathy, manifested in the development of communities. Building community is both a material process but also an emotional one, requiring not only the redistribution of resources and labor but also the transformation of minds outside of individualist, capitalist modes of thought into politics of love.” incredible. i loved reading this, thank you!

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probably my favorite essay of yours so far! it really spotlights the exact culture that i grew up with online, and gives a well thought out response. thank you!

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wow we may have the same parents! mine were born 1959 and 1961 but other than that they are the same. i did get them to watch cheer on netflix last year so i think i've slightly changed their minds on cheerleading but now they just think it should go under a different name :/

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def hard to have well-meaning people equate anything feminine to stupidity or frivolity... still trying to figure out how to communicate to people that embracing femininity isn't at odds with being ambitious or intelligent or articulate!

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I really like you're writing. I've been reading a lot of articles about modern day feminism, but I think this one is by far one of the better ones. 'But it’s also irresponsible to refuse to understand where our desires comes from, refuse to believe we can be subject to whims in line with the structures we despise, refuse to acknowledge that each and every choice we make is not the most radical or most progressive one it can be.'

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