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thank you for putting into words something that was bothering me re: clinical terms like hyperfixation entering the vernacular but that I struggled to articulate! I think this was written very beautifully. and agree 1000% - I have been so frustrated by the proliferation of “anti male gaze” tiktok content that seems to only fuel consumerism in a different way and pit women even more against each other based on some vague aesthetic

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tysm ! <3

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You articulated this so well! When we start to pathologize normal human behavior, perhaps, in order to make oneself more “unique” or even as a trend, actual symptoms of mental illnesses retain their stigma.

I particularly liked this line: “if anyone can say they have “intrusive thoughts” or “hyperfixations” or “manic episodes”, then the full, actual realities of these symptoms seem like an overextension of otherwise normal behavior rather than a medical response to a neuropsychological illness”

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commenting b/c I've been thinking about this a lot recently... the digital-social rhetoric slurry... I agree its harmful, I also (as a hater) think it's becoming intolerable to listen to, ideas and feelings being thoughtlessly shoved into trendy frameworks,,, a twitter account I really like (@coldhealing) documents examples of the co opting you're talking about and moments of the internet clearly shaping peoples' understandings of reality. it's cool. but yes, thank u for this,,, wishing we could return to speaking simply and plainly about how we feel instead of this hyperbolic, sloppy cut-and-paste mess haha.

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“cut and paste mess” is so on the nose I love it

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Love this, it articulates a lot of the discomfort I feel with the word trauma being used so casually and constantly online (esp tiktok)

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i get excited every time you post! points that stuck with me: "We have confused “normalization” for “universalization” and the power dynamics of language. sending love <3333

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thank you! if you want something a bit more dense on the relationship between power and language, i've mostly just recapitulated a lot of what foucault said :) The Archaeology of Knowledge is a good place to start if these ideas are interesting to you!

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Ashamed to say I’ve never heard of John Berger but that quote made me audibly gasp

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ways of seeing is great! it's a book and a tv show (which i think is on youtube)--the book is very easy to read and is half written essays and half all-picture essays :) read it in an art history class when i was 17 and it has not left my mind since

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this is so fucking well put!!

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love the John Berger quote and the Atwood quote. so glad you wrote this, i literally haven’t been able to stop thinking about this topic as a whole since the rayne essay and that one binchtopia episode.

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Love this so much !!

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ooh you put this into words so well. <3 big fan, thank you.

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god thank you so much for articulating this... i have been thinking on it for a while and would have never been able to communicate it this well. especially in terms of "male gaze" this was fantastic as usual

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this but w the term trauma bonding

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Great article. I have a pet theory that autism is the perfect diagnosis-du-jour for the post-covid moment because people may be sensing actual decreases in their social skills and increases in neuroticism due to isolation and wrongly attributing it to autism which they have just become aware of. Definitely not the biggest or most compelling force driving the autism self diagnosis trend, but I def wonder if it’s a factor

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This is so brilliant and well articulated. So many of my thoughts regarding our usage of language are reflected in this.

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Thank you so much for putting this into words

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Not compared to a picture.

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